Dr. Mark Griffiths explains another form of sexual fetish. Wrestling although seen as an athletic activity has an erotic element. There is very little professional academic research on the matter, which only leaves websites and personal confession by individuals who are engaged in the practice. There seems to be a large portion of overlap with other fetishes. Female domination, sadomasochism, or sthenolgania can overlap. However, those people who are aroused may not have all of these desires and fetishes. Erotic wrestling can appeal to men, women, people of various sexual origination, and various ethnic as well as cultural backgrounds. Sexual fetishes seem to be more diverse and extensive than previously thought. What this demonstrates is that humanity still does not know much about sexual science and the nature of arousal. The internet has allowed a new world to emerge. People are getting exposure to ideas and concepts they did not believe existed. There is a subculture of erotic wrestling in which men and women come together to participate in. Overtime, more accurate descriptions may emerge of such behaviors when scholarship takes an interest relative to sexology and psychology.
Female domination can be classified as a separate sexual fetish. This falls under another classification known as bondage,discipline, submission, and masochism (BDSM). Femdom as it is called for short is when the woman has most of the control. The man is the submissive partner. A dominatrix is a woman who holds most of the power. Fetish culture has become more visible in popular media and so has the image of femdom. There may be a connection between women’s growing power in the public sphere, the sexual revolution, and the continuing evolution of the feminist movement as well as its ideology. There could be a growing acceptance of sex positive feminism and it has spread in multiple ways.
Session wrestling has been a part of the female bodybuilding scene for decades. Mixed wrestling predates session wrestling done by female athletes of the bodybuilding sports.
This also ties into other sexual fantasies. Female supremacy is one that is common in both erotic and female muscle fandom. This fantasy envisions women having complete control of society making men subordinate. Relative to erotic wrestling it ponders the concept of what a world would be like if rule by women who were stronger than men. Women in these fantasies dominate men through brute strength with an emphasis on certain wrestling moves. The most popular is the scissor move which appears in a majority of erotic and mixed wrestling videos. It is not just men and women wrestling . There can be female versus female matches in videos. This has the stronger female dominate the weaker woman or women of equal fitness level wrestling one another. Erotic wrestling crosses over with fantasy wrestling. This is more about engaging in the person’s ideal match. Women who are not even that big are wrestling men twice their weight . The matches are not physical contests rather it resembles play matches that children would do. The difference is the primary objective is arousal and a display of female physical strength.
There are a combination of female versus female and mixed matches on certain websites. They tend to be one-sided for viewer pleasure. A woman with bigger size or more strength dominates the weaker man or woman.
There are videos that are obviously fake, with men over exaggerating the pain they are in. Then there are videos which are semi-competitive in which a man resists for awhile and then allows a woman to take over. Most of the time these wrestling fantasies have women being the victor in matches. Occasionally, there are instances in which women lose matches and the man dominates. These matches are scripted and directed by which ever video production company.
Some videos are real and others are fake. The videos where a 120 lbs woman beating a 196 lbs man are the ones that are fake. The videos with bigger men wrestling smaller women are fake and are merely acting. It is not a depiction of violence against women as some would assume.
The women that wrestle in these videos are going against men either weaker or equal to them in strength. Sometimes they go with men who are bigger. The idea is to make a scripted match look more realistic. It should be noted that this not designed to promote violence against women or abuse, rather it is men and women engaging in sexual fantasy. Scholars of sexology and psychology make the mistake of only focusing on male sexual response. Fetishes are documented in men, but rarely is there extensive studies about female sexual behavior. Women may get arousal knowing they have more physical power than the men they dominate in a session. There are women who have enough financial security who do not need sessions to pursue their fitness activities, yet continue to do sessions. Their reasons vary, but it seems to bet for the fun of it, travelling to different places, and some form of gratification. The idea of women having no sexual drive is a false notion that was derived from sexist attitudes and cultural restrictions about human sexual behavior. There are some stereotypes that also are associated with this element of fetish culture. There is a tendency to see muscular women as being dominating personalities or dominatrix like. A dominatrix could have many different body types. They could be thin or bigger. The reason why these stereotypes are prevalent is due to the anxiety that society feels about powerful women.
Not all female bodybuilders are part of a dominatrix scene. This existed before the creation of the sport. Somehow this idea got associated with them mainly based on their looks. Prejudice and certain notions of gender make people think that such strong women would be dominant personalities.
Maybe that is why people see femdom as strange seeing as the idea of women breaking out of a subordinate or secondary role seems unnatural. This subtle sexism leads other men to also feel guilty about their fetish or embarrassed. This quote from Dr. Griffith’s posts explains this perfectly : ” I have a wrestling fetish, Like as in erotic wrestling I can’t seem to find any other women into this? Am I weird? Are there any other women out there into putting a man in between their thigh’s and making him do what they want and vise versa?” The image of looking like a sexual deviant or eccentric makes men hide their fetish for fear of ostracism and condemnation. Doing an academic study would be difficult mainly because it would require people to come forward and discuss their sexual behavior. Seeing as it is such a private matter and many are bashful about answers may not always be truthful on a survey. Women are also subject to even more harsh criticism. Session wrestlers are often accused of engaging in prostitution. Session wrestling is not prostitution, but it seems that the willingness to call it that demonstrates subtle misogyny. This is the mentality of the whore mother dichotomy in which women can only be one or the other. Prostitution is one of the world’s oldest professions and it seems odd that such a practice would be made illegal between two consenting adults. Everyone has some form of sexual expression, unless asexual in nature. This can display itself in various ways. Female domination is a form of sexual expression done by men and women.
Sadomashocism is arousal from the infliction of pain or constant humiliation. This has not been declared a clinical paraphilia. The only way this would reach such a level is if it is done without consent or just for the pleasure of seeing someone harmed. Too often people confuse sadomasochism with sexual violence and aggression. Masochism itself is different from sadomasochism. Masochism simply means seeking pain for the sake of pleasure. That may seem like an anomaly, yet it appears that there are a portion of people who have this. Masochism is nothing new. The term was derived from two individuals Marquis de Sade and Leopold Von Sacher Masoch. From their last names came the term sadomasochism. It was developed as a term and coined by the German psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing. He discussed this concept of sadomasochism in The Psychopathology of Sex . Marquis de Sade was a philosopher, writer, and known for his libertine ideology. He was exploring the notion of sadomasochism through is writings. Doing this in 18th century France caused him to have trouble with the law, when freedom of speech was not guaranteed and strict censorship could result in imprisonment. Leopold Von Sacher Masoch who was of the Austrian nobility had more freedom to write about such topics in the 19th century. Being a journalist and writer it was only natural to discuss topics that were taboo or controversial. Masoch did not approve of Ebing using his name for what was considered a sexual disorder. Sigmund Freud claimed that sadomasochism was a projection from a childhood trauma. The problem with the analysis of Freud and Ebing’s conclusions was that they would not survive rigorous testing of the scientific method. Another problem is data collection. They only studied people who had severe disorders instead of a larger sample and only people within their countries. Women were not studied extensively at all in regards to sadomasochism. Erotic wrestling is not always about inflicting pain. Those with sadomasochism may not want to wrestle at all.
Erotic wrestling also represents an element of sthenolgania. Seeing as wrestling is an athletic feat, arousal by strength and muscular power. The fetish for physically powerful women may be growing according to some sources. Dr. Niall Richardson wrote for the Journal of Gender Studies in 2008 documenting this phenomenon. His article was “Flex-rated! Feminist Resistance or Erotic Spectacle.” Muscle worship he noted was growing due to the availability on the internet,DVDs, and videos. Muscle worship does not always involve wrestling rather the client being there for the sake of admiration. Female muscle and more specifically the fetish for fit women has gotten mainstream exposure. Richardson even references Ebing in his analysis : ” As Krafft-Ebing described, for the fetishist, ‘the fetish itself (rather than the person associated with it) becomes the exclusive object of sexual desire’ and therefore ‘instead of coitus, strange manipulations of the fetish’ are the sexual goal (Krafft-Ebing quoted in Steele 1996, p. 11). ” This means that simply the act of muscle worship is more important to the muscle worshiper. Normally, sessions do not end in sex. It more about the client seeing a strong woman up close and experiencing her power. Dr. Niall Richardson stated in his article ” or muscle-worshippers, oiling up and massaging muscles, watching a bodybuilder flexing (especially seeing the muscle bulge and swell) and displaying feats of strength is not necessarily a precursor to copulation. ” He delineates further ” Instead, the activity of muscle-worship is, for muscle-worshippers, the satisfying sexual act”. A worshiper would be sexually satisfied by a muscular woman putting them in a headscissor, rather than engaging in copulation. Sexual fetishes demonstrate how human behavior is responsive to various stimuli.
Muscle worship involves the client admiring the woman’s muscles. However, wrestling, arm wrestling, lift and carry can be a part of it.
People have kinks and this differs from fetishes. The concept of kink is more of an emphasis on activity, rather than the subject of sexual stimuli. Muscle worship or the acts of rubbing or feeling women’s muscles. The basic denotation of kink is that it is describing sexual behavior and practice. There is much overlap with fetishes and kinks to such a degree the line becomes blurred. Erotic wrestling is one fetish that could extend to many more.
It is unknown just how many people have erotic wrestling fetishes. Based on the appearance of certain websites, it may be larger than assumed. Part of the problem is that people do not want to talk about their personal sexual behavior. Cultural mores and conventions restrict such discussions. Gradually, with the rise of sexology as an academic discipline more knowledge has been acquired. Humans are sexual beings which explains the prevalence of pornography or suggestive material in popular entertainment. The muscle girl phenomenon may not even be something new. It is possible that our hominid ancestors had certain mating rituals that modern primates have today. Copulation is not some random activity, it is a major part of the animal kingdom. According to the theory of evolution this is so that certain traits and genes can spread by means of natural selection. Human sexual behavior is a product of millions of years of evolution and environment. This is not merely based on nature. There could be sociological factors that influence sexual behavior and expression. Seeing many images may encourage like of a particular attribute of an individual. The fear of being ostracized or condemned about sexual behavior or fetishes makes studying sexology a challenge. New methods will develop to explore the unknown nature of human sexual behavior. Erotic wrestling is one of many fetishes that psychologists and sexologists know about.